Low honesty is a sign of low intelligence
I see that the lack of honesty is a true trait of people who are not intelligent. If intelligence is not a real way to judge yourself, then being dishonest is enough shame. Do you need to be lying, not masterfully, but like a bug in the water to escape the doubts? It's not lying to escape a fate, it's lying to someone that has sacrificed their ego for you. To lie you to lie for a real purpose, but lying because you think it's funny that someone is seeing the good in you and wants to give you their committment while you are sneaky whore? To lie when someone asks if you understood this lesson or got time for them to talk while you greatly offer it to someone else? To lie to someone when they ask about their position in your life and if you are taking them seriously? It's quite pathetic and funny, to pretend that your lies are masterful tactics, yet people are only tolerating you to not break your heart and leave you. It's the lack of honesty with yourself especially, because you may think that you are honest to people, yet because you do not realise that you are maybe a liar, lazy, narcissistic, addicted to validation, cannot commit, dumb or anything is the true lack of intelligence. I may give it a go that you are lying to people to play with their emotions, or gain a virtual non existent advantage in something not meaningful, to risk a genuine connection for a reason that maybe isn't worth it because that's who you are. In the other hand, not being able to be honest with yourself, firmly believing that you are not a toxic person with many wounds or should not be approached is quite humourous. Do not tell me "I have never found someone mature, no one." While you can't lie a single lie that a seven-years old can believe. Is it maturity to pretend for being an old-school lover that is loyal but do everything that loyal people are doing because you seek something long-term yet somehow the person who wants to give you that gets a heart-shattering text from a guy who is fucking you? Not being able to be honest that you have moved on or can't commit? Sure, extreme maturity. What about the people that claim to be intelligent, me especially, If I was so intelligent why do I repeat the same cycle? Why do I seem unable to score enough marks for my comfort, unable to have any intellectual hobby or simply any hobby that isn't cheap dopamine, find opportunities and especially not loving the wrong people with the most horrible pasts? I find it funny that I am not honest with myself when it comes to committment or clarity for people, I do not tell them the truth out of fear of judgement. Nonsense for our mind, I could account for the possibility that someone is hurting or have another motive for asking me a question, it would be way easier for me to be honest with them and ask why they are asking such questions and what they expect. There is no explanation on why I can't be honest with people, cooking a half-built lie to escape conviction? It's the realisation that I was going on the idea that It's always safer to be "playing people" to not get hurt, expecting everyone to be a player. Doesn't provide any value and it's not honest, I was moving in a shady way with people that truly were innocent and in a dumb way with people I clearly knew were manipulative liars. I wasn't honest that I was attracted to those liars due to trauma whether it's in them or me. I felt like captain save a hoe but in reality I was just another crew member for bob the builder to fix someone that doesn't to be fixed, although in all honesty I wasn't there to fix. I feel disgusted that I tell people that I couldn't do it because of many reasons, yet I realise if I am that intelligent I could have fixed those reasons. There is no need to lie that I am lazy, or along the way I felt that I am not enjoying that hobby and it's wasting my time. Pathetic, I had to make up reasons for it no knowing that those reasons too can be fixed. Why would I lie to people anymore, it's quite dumb and weak. Yes I am scared, yes my brain doesn't stop overthinking, yes I suffer from apathy, yes I am drained after all of those years, yes I get lonely and reach out then dissapear when I am a bit more stable or completely broken. It doesn't make no sense to lie to people that are not going to hurt you, you can be honest with them and yourself. You can be honest strategically, you don't have to show someone how bad you are wounded, you can simply hint or describe it. You don't have to wait and observe their actions, get cold, and tell them with all detachement "I am looking for this and this, please do not waste my time anylonger, if u are unsure of me or you are another type of person, I will leave. I have many mental health problems and problems at home. I can leave instantly and never look back but I do not want to make a decision that will hurt another person. Show me where you stand". You do not have to lie to your friend why u stopped adhering to that diet "look man, it got hard, i don't cook and my family were annoyed and m not seeing fast results so i gave up". That language you wanted to learn, "I simply gave up because I don't find it useful for now and I am not motivated". The girl that u wanted to be with, " yeah I've seen some redflags and honestly I don't think it will work". Honesty with yourself is one of the most amazing traits to have, real narcissists hate themselves too much, I hate myself too much to admit my shortcomings. I admit them because there is strength in it, strength that others do not have. You cannot fathom how well you will start living by understanding that being honest to yourself will make it clear to you. It could translate into honesty with people. I end this by not saying that lying is a sign of low intelligence, it's that lying for no real reason and performing it in a dull way is a laughable act. You can lie to hide your true feelings; in a sense that you are hiding how vulnerable you are if you fear being rediculed. If you lie because the other person is lying to you. To lie in a harmless manner to avoid an immediate consequence until you are able to diffuse the situation. Lying to yourself however may not help you, you may lie to yourself and you are convinced of it and it harms someone else because your feelings or brain isn't responding well to that lie. I am not saying be disrespectful nor dodgy, tell them the truth that you are not attracted to them and feel that you are carrying a burden that is emotionally draining rather than saying " I want to keep you as a friend ". Do not tell that person that they matter or you need them while you keeping them as an option to entertain. Be honest with yourself, when you refuse to do something and you give out a reason, sit back and wonder if that's an honest reason or not. Tell the truth even if it costs you to lose, an intelligent person knows that certain lies get out of control, that situations waste your time for a lie that you shouldn't have said before, that you miss out on life because of a lie to give you comfort. I do not care if you are evil for the sake of it, keep lying to guys/girls while you are getting fucked behind their backs, go hit up your friend's partner or ex, give up on that gym goal, lose that opportunity, take a shot at your friend or ignore them because you chose yourself, keep those people around waiting for you because you are an unhealed prick. You are just immature and not fun to take seriously, sure I will get in line and wait for my turn to use you for your body, sure I will hang out with you and not take you seriously and stand by you when it comes, sure I will be with you but don't come telling me I feel insecure of my body or that no one is loving me, sure I will hear you vent because you didn't achieve your dreams but do not pretend that you are the victim of your reality, do not lie to me for I never will trust you anyways. In the end, I shouldn't lie to myself most importantly, even if costs comfort, because I am done with the consequences of those lies, I am done being clueless while all I had to do is an honest introspection. You should too, everyone should. If you don't have a strong sense of justice and empathy, it's okay, God never created us equally. I am not mad at you and in fact I am not even dissapointed, you do you. I am honest with myself and anyone coming, so do be honest with me, if it hurts try to prepare. If it's deep and intimate, say that you do not trust me enough or that you are afraid from looking dumb. No one wants to be a burden for somebody else, so if I am burdening you and you cannot be what I want from you, do not lie and try to keep me around, I will leave if that's the only thing I desire from you. No one loses a genuine connection with genuine feelings and communication if they are honest. Nor is it that dishonest people are bad, it's just more peaceful to not worry about their words or what they are doing. I insist that it's more important to be honest with oneself, even if I am expressing what I feel inside. I still feel the grief of many choices I made for the lack of honesty of people and myself. Honesty isn't just with people but also with yourself. You will look back and hate yourself for what was lost because you were dishonest. With that, if you ever think you will hurt someone who was honest with you and themselves, they will erase you like you were nothing;exactly like you treated them.